Tips to be more attractive as a man
The next thing to consider is what to say. What you say can totally change the result of the interaction, and sometimes, it’s not what you say, but what you don’t say. One of the most impulsive things to try and prepare for is an opening question and answer, but that’s harder than it sounds. “What’s your sign?” “What does it mean when you say X?” Those are the kind of questions that start to sound like an interrogation. You have to prepare some answers of your own, but don’t feel the need to share them with her – she’ll catch on eventually. More than likely, you will end up with more questions than replies, but that’s fine, it’s a good conversation, so take some of them on. What you talk about is also important, however, there are more aspects to it than just that.
You might have noticed that what you talk about changes over time. That’s because what you talk about and how you talk about it also changes. That’s fine, and it shouldn’t come as a surprise. What I’m saying is that communication and expectations are going to change from person to person. I’ve changed my views on kissing, from somebody who didn’t do it at age 18, to somebody who does it now. I’ve changed my thoughts on touch, from that it’s a necessary and useful tool in business, to that it’s awkward and distracting. Also, the subjects I talk about change. I stopped talking about politics a few years ago, and suddenly I didn’t say anything at all.
What you need to do is make sure that you stay in the conversation, and stay active, by making future plans. This will do two things: you’ll keep her occupied and give you something else to talk about (since speaking about the past is exactly what conversation is composed of).
A third strategy that is often overlooked is learning to read body language. More than anything else, this is a practical tool that can save you a lot of burdens. Reading body language is critical to your success with women, and it rarely happens in a way that is obvious. Unless you’re a real mouse that often needs someone telling it for you to understand. For example, does she lean in toward you when she’s talking to you, or at a complete loss for words? Does she have her hand on her belly for a while after your first conversation, then go back to what she was doing? Does she laugh at your jokes, or look for the nearest exit? Does she act confidently and at ease, or come off as shy and awkward? If you’re observant, you can tell that what she’s doing is right.
Ok, let’s say these are all true. That being said, it’s not that hard to “fake it until you make it” when it comes to reading the body language of the woman you’re interested in. That’s right – you can try to fake it until you make it! Here’s my best-case scenario: you work in an office, she has a girlfriend, things are getting pretty hot between the two of them… then suppose one day, you get a m Us some feedback.
That’s when you look at your “friend” and you think “oh no, she’s totally feisty!” So you do a little bit, then you “try hard” to adjust yourself to fit what you think she might like, then you worry about ruining a good thing (a good relationship with a friend), then you start to pretend to fit in somewhere because you think it’s not enough, then somebody in your social circle says something about it and your friends/family has noticed that you’re starting to get cocky and over-confident and it’s hurting your chances.
So what are some immediate actions you can take to become more attractive today?